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About HUG

HUG supports anyone who needs help following the loss of a baby at any gestation.
Firstly, we are deeply sorry about your circumstances that have brought you to us. At HUG, we strive to direct you to exactly where you need to be. Whether you are looking for advice for how to cope after the loss of a baby, or advice for a family member or friend who is going through it. Please be assured that you have come to the right place.

At HUG, we have a huge amount of information, so have a look at our links and get in touch if you can’t find what you are looking for. Alternatively, you can join our chat to talk now to others who are also looking for support. We know what you are going through and how you feel and we are here to help. Whether you are a mum, a dad, sibling, friend or family member, we will direct you to the information and support that you need.

A huge thank you to everyone who supports HUG. The HUG community is growing fast, and because of you we have been able to do so much more to help anyone who needs support following the loss of a baby at any gestation.

So many of you have fundraised for HUG and it has made such a huge difference to so many people who are struggling following the loss of their baby. HUG is teaming up with Tommy’s, an amazing charity that focuses on pregnancy, babies and research projects focused on miscarriage and baby loss. They have a dedicated research centre and its ‘pioneering research begins to try and spare the heartbreak suffered by 1 in 4 couples.’ HUG is a huge supporter of Tommy’s and we hope to do great things together, not only to break the silence of baby loss, but to help so many others in the future. Want to get involved or find out more? Email

Who is Tommy’s and what do we do?

Tommy’s has been working to save babies lives for 25 years. In 1992, two obstetricians from St Thomas’ Hospital in London were frustrated by the lack of answers available for the women. Now, the charity they founded is the UK’s leading charity researching into the causes and prevention of baby loss. Sadly, 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in loss in the UK, causing untold heartbreak to parents and families.

Tommy’s raise funds to facilitate medical research into why babies are born too soon or lost in pregnancy and birth. Our researchers are working to find the answers and come up with solutions to save babies lives’ and protect families from the devastation that the loss of a baby causes.

We have four research centres across the UK dedicated to prematurity, miscarriage and stillbirth research. In April of 2016 we realised a longstanding ambition and opened our National Centre for Miscarriage Research, the largest of its kind in Europe.

As well as conducting pioneering research, Tommy’s provide a bespoke pregnancy information service offering information, advice and support to help women have the healthiest pregnancy possible. All of our information is certified by The Information Standard and informed by our team of midwives, who also run a free information line for pregnancy advice and bereavement support.

The page for Family and Friends is excellent as too often parents experience accidental insensitivity from those closest to them.

We think this page could be a really valuable to people

Tommys have pages on trying again after loss here

Tommys also have this amazing page in trying again after a loss

Tommys have a wonderful video on pregnancy after loss which not only talks about the anxiety, it also talks about how Tommy’s can help.

HUG is still pushing to get ‘HUG nurses’ on wards to identify them as somewhat bereavement trained. It is so sad that so many have had negative experiences at hospitals, with the majority being from the way bereaved parents are dealt with in insensitive manners. It has been a well-received idea and the NHS are positive about this. They recognise that there are issues with some staff and they need to be addressed. There’s a long way to go but at least we are in the right direction! A huge thank you to all the amazing, hard working doctors, midwives and nurses and everyone else on the team that do make such a difference to patient experience. We really appreciate it, more than you will ever know!

The Grief Recovery Method
I highly recommend this method as I am a certified Grief Recovery Specialist. It is not counselling or therapy, although there are therapeutic aspects to it. The Grief Recovery Method is an educational programme and supports anyone who has been through a loss, whether it be a death, a divorce, a house move or the loss of a pet. It is such a versatile method and has been around for 30 years. It is used in so many countries and is growing and growing. It gives you vital tools to help with coping with loss and is a very worthwhile programme (infact essential!) to look into if you are feeling ‘stuck’ or ‘lost’ following a loss. From someone who has been through counselling and being in a very dark place for a very long time, I can honestly say that The Grief Recovery Method changed my life. My anxiety dramatically reduced since completing the programme and I have learned to finally live my life again after losing my babies. This method is used all over the country so there will be a Grief Recovery specialist near you. Email with any questions or visit for more information about it. This method is so important to HUG in teaching staff at hospitals to use the tools themselves within their personal lives as well as applying some of the techniques to be more supportive and understanding to their patients, especially those who are experiencing trauma and loss. If I could pause time, I would take every single one of you through this method. It doesn’t change what has happened, but it lets us breathe again and oh my goodness, we deserve it! Lots of love, Amy xxx

HUG Remembrance Page

HUG understands the importance of the recognition of your baby. Unfortunately, most of us who lose a baby will not be offered to register their existence legally. We have decided to add a HUG remembrance page to honour our children who didn't make it. Whether you lost your baby early or late in your pregnancy, you can register them for recognition at HUG. It doesn't matter if you have named your baby or not, nicknames and baby 'surname' will of course be included. Send your baby's name/nickname and date to and we will include your little treasure(s). If you would like to, you can of course leave a message for your baby which we will include.


You can view our remembrance page here.

Important helplines

Miscarriage Association - 01924 200799 - available Monday to Friday 9am to 4pm

SANDS - 02074365881 Monday to Friday 9:30am to 5:30pm and 6pm to 10pm Tuesday and Thursday

Samaritans - 116 123 - available anytime

Helpful websites
Coping with a loss
Help with telling children
Explaining miscarriage and baby loss
Relationship advice
Mental health

Amy Everatt

Founder of Help Us Grieve


Like so many people, I have been through the horrendous trauma of losing babies. In 2013, I started working on HUG in desperation and anger that there was such little interest or time spare to support people through the physical, psychological and emotional trauma that we go through as parents for many months and even years after we lose our babies.

I have been on a mission to change things for every single one of us; mums, dads, siblings, friends and family, who are affected by the loss of our little ones. This website is YOURS and the idea is that we encourage you to get in touch with us with your comments and experiences so that we continue to update and alter HUG so that it becomes the best that it can be.

To get in touch, you can email

After all, every experience and circumstance is different. I understand your anger, frustration, pain and anxiety. I will do everything I can to help.

Lots of love to you, Amy xxx

My Granny, Betty (GB), always used to say...

'Just remember, kid, hugs are free...'